I was at a party on the weekend and was desperate for a glass of water. A lady was standing by the sink sipping on a cocktail and as I turned on the tap she asked me, “What are you doing?”
“Having a glass of water. Would you like one?”
“Hell no! Have you seen what that stuff does to ships!”
We laughed and in a way she was right, what may be good for my inner organs certainly rusts out a lot of other stuff. It got me thinking about perspective. For me the water made sense but for her not so much. And it wasn’t the water itself but the different attitudes we brought to it.
So, here’s the thing, we cannot help but bring our own perspective to anything. And that’s okay because it’s these things which make us who we are. But the problems set in when we hang onto them so tight that they become big giant monsters of self-righteousness, huffing around in an I’m right, you’re wrong corner.
The stand-off differing perspectives causes can be exhausting. And whether it’s with family members, partners or out in the wider community unresolved issues are unhealthy. If we keep spending all that energy on feeling misunderstood we’re not doing ourselves any favours because we may be missing solutions only a tiny side step away from what we think.
So we have choices we can accept the other person’s perspective, reconcile it and move on. Happy days. But sometimes no matter how hard we try we cannot accept it and then we have to let go of the indignation and call a friend! No seriously after the call we do need to try and move on. We can listen to their point of view and if we don’t agree it can be a buffer, clarify a situation, or maybe even be a call to action. Sometimes we don’t like their perspective because it challenges our sense of self but no matter how much we want people to see things our way the truth is they may not. The only thing we can do then is manage our response.
Sometimes I really struggle looking past my own interpretation of situations but when I can it’s a bit like climbing a hill. We don’t just look one way when we reach the top we look in every direction, take in every view. We do look a little longer at the view we like best but at least we do see the whole panorama. As Wayne Dyer says, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” Hard but worth a try?
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A great post on keeping things in perspective! I too am a big Wayne Dyer reader. From my perspective, it surely is a great day! 🙂
Great post! To some the glass is half full, to others it’s half empty!
Awesome post Charlie!
What I have decided in my life is that when my perspective is based on the truth of God’s Word, I don’t have to change my perspective. For the sake of mental health, I believe we can agree to disagree. I do agree that, in most cases, our experiences definitely have major influence on our perspective. I found that I also don’t have to change my perspective if it’s healthy for my life and I don’t have a problem with the other person’s perspective. I believe the real question is is it necessary to change your perspective and if so, why? I also believe it is our perspective that makes us unique and different. Otherwise, what would be the point in meeting new people. Just my perspective…lol. Pun intended.
A really good post , I must say. I highly recommend : Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. Your thoughts in this post are very congruent to that book. Love, Lizzie Life.